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Deal With Having Failed

Everyone fails at some time. The only way to never fail is to never try. But if you never try you will never achieve the things you want.

So don't give up trying just to avoid failing. Instead keep trying but be prepared to deal with failing when it happens. And dealing with failing means talking about it.

Dealing with failing by talking about it helps you understand failing. When you understand failing you can get over it and get on with life. If you don't deal with failing it will still be there making your life less than it should be.
Deal With Having Failed
Have you failed?
Yes
No
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At what have you failed?
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Why did you fail?
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Has something bad happened because you failed?
Yes
No
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If nothing bad has happened even though you've failed it's not something you have to be concerned with. Since it's not a big deal you should be able to get away without having to deal with it. If you find you're still bothered by having failed then you should go back and deal with it.
Deal With Having Failed
What has happened because you failed?
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If you haven't failed you don't need to answer these questions. The time to answer these questions is when you have failed. Continue on.
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Is there anything that can be done to make things better?
Yes
No
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Since there is nothing that can done to make things better you are going to have to learn to live with what has happened because you failed. If you are not satisfied with this you can try to find a way to make things better.
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What can you do to make things better?
Deal With Having Failed
You have now dealt with failing.
  • You have admitted failing
  • You have talked about what you failed at
  • You have dealt with why you failed
  • You have decided something bad has happened because you failed
  • You have found something you can do to make things better
You should now do this if you want to make things better.
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Why did you fail?
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If you were to do it again what would you do to be successful?
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You have now dealt with failing.