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Deal With Saying You Can't Do Something

You don't think you can do it but maybe you can.

It's a big deal to say you can't do something. Once you decide you can't do something you stop trying. If you stop trying you aren't going to achieve your goal. You don't want to say you can't do something you really can do. If you make this mistake you will miss out on achieving things you really could achieve.

The questions that follow rely on the old saying "How do you know you can't do something until you try?"
Deal With Saying You Can't Do Something
Are you saying there is something you can't do?
Yes
No
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What can't you do?
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Why do you say you can't do it?
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Have you tried doing it?
Yes
No
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Were you successful at doing it?
Yes
No
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These questions should be answered when you can't do something. If you aren't saying you can't do something you don't need to answer these questions.
Deal With Saying You Can't Do Something
You may be right in saying you can't do it. You have already tried to do it and you weren't successful. If you still want to do it you can try one of the following and see if it helps.
  • Try again but make a better effort if that is possible
  • Try doing things differently
  • Wait and see if things change. You may be able to do it then
Deal With Saying You Can't Do Something
You really can do it. You say you can't do it but you tried to do it and you were successful. That shows that you can do it. Somehow you got the wrong idea that you can't do it. You should think you can do it.
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Why do you think you weren't successful at doing it?
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Do you think you would be successful at doing it if you made a better effort?
Yes
No
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Even though you say you can't do it you still might be able to do it. You have already tried and you weren't successful. But you think you may be able to do it if you make a better effort. If you really want to do it you should make that better effort and try again.
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Can you do it if you try to do it a different way this time?
Yes
No
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It seems possible you can do it if you try to do things differently this time.
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Can you do it if things change?
Yes
No
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It seems possible you can do it if things are different this time.
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It seems you are correct in concluding that you can't do it. You should plan accordingly.
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Is this a good reason for not trying to do it?
Yes
No
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Why haven't you tried doing it?
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Maybe you can do it. You haven't tried to do it yet and you don't have a good reason for not trying. You won't really know you can't do it until you try. If you really want to do it give it a try and see if you can do it.
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Is this a good reason for not trying to do it?
Yes
No
Deal With Saying You Can't Do Something
You may be right in thinking you can't do it. In most cases you would want to try to do something before you are sure you can't do it. But because you have a good reason for not trying to do it you will have to stop and accept that this is something you just can't do. Everyone has limitations and this is one of yours. You will have to learn to live with it. If you are not satisfied with this you should think again about your reason for not trying to do it.
Deal With Saying You Can't Do Something
It may be possible for you to do it. You don't have a good reason for not trying. Go backwards and examine the problem again.